Quotes from every mans battle
'Victory with Your Mind', and 'Victory with Your Heart'. The book's nineteen chapter are divided into six parts: 'Where Are We?', 'How We Got Here', 'Choosing Victory', 'Victory with Your Eyes'. I wonder, however, whether the war will ever be won in just this way. I commend them for their earnestness and I believe many men will find tactical benefit in some of their prescriptions. Though the authors don't say so, one comes to the conclusion that they recognize a demand-side issue, but consider it to be every man's struggle, fairly conventional in its contours, and perhaps not worth fretting over in time of war.
Quotes from every mans battle manual#
Arterburn's and Stoeker's EVERYMAN'S BATTLE is a battle manual for supply siders seeking to kill off an enemy that has devastated the land. Like any soldier in a war, you seek to evade or kill the enemy, relying on the band of brothers that got you this far alive. Supply-siders employ the language of self-discipline, will-power, and accountability. According to this approach, a man needs to interdict the supply of titillating messages, arousing inputs, and the habits to which they lead by discipline, self-protection, accountability to others, and the like. On the other hand lie what I'll call the supply-side arguments. Often this approach will rely in part on counseling or therapies that help a man (and the woman he has promised to love) define the need and then seek healthy ways to fill it. What is *missing* in lives that motivates guys to try to replace it with pornography and illicit sexual encounters? Those who take this tack typically look for long-term solutions to the *demand*. That is, in order to dry up sexual addiction, the pressing need is to find out what drives the hunger that leads men into sexual addiction. On the one hand are the demand-side arguments.
Approaches to overcoming sexual addiction can be roughly divided into two, oddly analogous to debates over economic policy or even the traffic of illegal drugs. On the other hand, this battle matters so much that one wants to wage it with appropriate cunning, keeping the eye focused on winning the war rather than lusting for the celebration that comes after every small battle. After all, the public leaders with whom I work and whose downfall resounds so loudly are grateful for almost any weapon they can add to their armament. On the one hand, sexual addiction is so devastating to men and those who love them that almost any assault mounted on its impregnable fortress is worthy of applause.